Day 3, Friday: Things that make you uncomfortable.
This was a hard one for me, I really want to only stay positive on this blog,
but I also want to be honest with my readers but mostly myself.
Something that makes me really uncomfortable? When people ask me about my
relationship. I don't mean the simple questions... I mean the down and dirty
questions.
I made it a rule for myself a while ago that I wouldn't discuss the details of
my relationship with ANYONE. This includes close girl friends and family.
Why?
Well, this is where I get honest... MP and I haven't had the easiest
relationship ever, it has been far from a fairytale romance. We are both
stubborn as mules, we have quite the temper when you put us together, and we
tend to get strung out on the little details.
When things got rough at the beginning, before we knew what "hard
times" really meant, I made the mistake of turning to my friends and
family and complaining to them about disagreements or circumstances we were
in... And because of this? This has made MOST people in my life not the biggest
fans of MP, and I take full responsibility for that. Granted he hasn't been
perfect but I also did not paint him in the best light when I was upset or
angry.
You live and learn, right?
So, now, I don't discuss anything with anyone. It makes me incredibly
uncomfortable when the subject of our relationship even comes up.
We have an argument? It stays between us. Something big goes down or we have a
big decision to make? It stays completely between us. People tend to remember
the negative stories a lot more vividly than they do the positive ones, and
this has made my relationship with MP difficult to make and keep public.
Another big reason for the new blog start.
While this is hard some (a lot) of the time, I make it work and I really think
it is for the best.
What about you? Does sharing details about your personal life or relationship
make you uncomfortable?
Link up with at Story of My Life for the Blog Every Day in May challenge and
let us know what makes you uncomfortable!
That's a great rule, especially since it makes you feel uncomfortable to have to talk about it. If you are happy keeping it to yourself, than it's yours to do with as you please!! I am such a talker and sharer that that just wouldn't work for me. Luckily most of our issues have a comical aspect to them to, so it's not too tough. :)
ReplyDeleteI do the same. I learned that lesson from a previous relationship and it did affect how some friends viewed him. My husband and I do not discuss big fights or issues with our friends or family. It works for us.
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I can't see anything wrong with keeping your relationship personal. Its up to you whether you want certain aspects of your relationship known and if its working for you then I say well done.
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